Finding a great financial advisor can be one of the most rewarding decisions you can make for your future, and asking the right questions on the first call is how it all starts.
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This is a chance to meet someone who might guide you through decades of your life. It should feel like a conversation, not an interview. Below are 20 questions that I have compiled based upon my 20+ years as an actively practicing financial advisor and what I have found to be the best in assessing the relationship and capabilities of an advisor you are considering working with. I have grouped them into four categories, starting with the ones that matter most: the personal-fit questions that reveal whether you and this advisor genuinely connect.
By Derek Notman, CFP®, Founder & CEO, Couplr AI
The 5 questions that matter most (personal fit)
Every long-term advisor relationship is built on trust, and trust starts with human connection. Before anything else, get to know the person you might be working with. These questions help you find out if you actually like each other, which is the single strongest predictor of whether the relationship will thrive.
- What do you love to do outside of work? Look for real energy in their answer. Great advisors are whole people with lives, hobbies, and passions of their own.
- Tell me a bit about your family or the people you spend your weekends with. Pets, kids, partners, close friends. If they light up talking about the people in their life, that’s someone who values relationships.
- What’s a place you love to travel to, and where’s next on your list? Travel stories are a fast, comfortable way to see how someone thinks about experiences, adventure, and what they save for.
- What’s a hobby or sport you’re passionate about? Shared interests build rapport quickly, and mismatched energies show up here too. If they say “reading” and you’re a mountain biker, that’s fine, but it tells you something about how they’ll approach your goals.
- What drew you to becoming a financial advisor in the first place? The best advisors have a story here. Listen for genuine care about people, not just a career-path answer.
If these five questions feel warm, easy, and natural, you’re already halfway to a great match. If they feel forced or the advisor deflects to talking about their credentials or process, that’s important information too. If their answers really resonate with you that means you have shared commonalities that will help you connect on a deeper level. If their answers are the opposite of how you would answer them, that’s ok and good to know as it’s an early predictor that this may not be the advisor for you.
How you’ll work together (5 questions)
Once you feel a personal connection, get a sense of what the ongoing relationship looks like. You want to make sure their style of working matches how you like to be supported.
- What does your ideal client relationship look like? How often do you talk with clients? How do you like to communicate? Text, email, phone, video?
- Who else on your team will I get to know? Great practices have great teammates. Meet them early.
- Walk me through what our first year together typically feels like. A confident advisor can describe this vividly. You’re looking for a clear picture, not vague promises.
- When something surprising happens in the markets or in my life, how do you like to reach out? Proactive communication is one of the highest-value things an advisor does. Ask how they handle it.
- What’s the most rewarding part of your work? This is a beautiful question, and the answer tells you what they actually value about helping clients.
Their approach and expertise (5 questions)
Now that you know the person and how you’ll work together, learn about their background and how they think about financial planning, investing, insurance, etc.
- What credentials or designations have you earned, and what drew you to them? CFP®, CFA, ChFC®, CIMA®, PFS, RICP® are all strong signals depending on the specialty. You’re looking for genuine expertise plus curiosity.
- How long have you been guiding clients through their financial lives? Experience matters, and years of practice often bring the pattern recognition that helps clients navigate real life. Keep in mind that just because they may not have been an advisor for a long time they still could be exactly the person you are looking for, especially if they work as part of a team and openly admit when they don’t know something and are willing to go find the answer.
- Who do you typically work with, and what does your favorite kind of client look like? If their favorite client sounds a lot like you, that’s a great sign.
- Walk me through your investment and planning philosophy in your own words. A confident advisor can explain their approach in plain English. If it makes sense to you, you’re aligned.
- How do you think about risk, and how do you help clients think about it? This is a conversation worth having early. Your comfort with risk should match how they approach it.
Money mechanics (5 questions)
Transparency here is the sign of a professional you can trust. Great advisors welcome these questions and answer them clearly.
- How do you get paid, and can you walk me through it in plain English? Fee-only, commission, fee-based, hourly, flat, subscription. Each is legitimate. What matters is that they explain it clearly.
- What are the typical all-in costs a client like me should expect? Advisor fee plus fund expense ratios plus any other platform or product costs. A great advisor gives you the full picture.
- Are you a fiduciary, and how does that show up in the way you work? A fiduciary is legally bound to put your interests first, and the these types of advisors want to talk about how that shapes their advice. But being a fiduciary is not a must-have thing, there are plenty of non-fiduciary advisors doing great work for their clients. The important part here is that they are transparent about it.
- How do you think about the trade-off between fees and value? This question opens up a great conversation about what you’re actually getting. Go check out the Vanguard and Morningstar studies on the value of a financial advisor for context here.
- What’s the easiest way for me to see how you’d be paid on any specific recommendation? Complete transparency should be standard. Look for a straightforward answer.
Why fit matters most
Every question above is helpful, but here’s the truth from 20+ years of watching advisor-client relationships up close; the credentials, the fees, the philosophy, and the service model all matter, but they don’t matter if you and your advisor don’t genuinely like each other, understand each other, and trust each other. That’s why the first five questions come first. Get those right, and the rest becomes a much easier conversation.
You’re not looking for the most credentialed advisor in the world. You’re looking for the right advisor for you.
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Bring the questions above into your first meeting. If it feels like the beginning of a real relationship, you’ve found your advisor.
Sending positive vibes your way,
Derek Notman, CFP
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